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2014: Cracking the Heart Wide Open

Some of the most beautiful and profound experiences of my life occurred in 2014. As I sit in reflection, letting memories and moments float up organically, the impact of said experiences grows and grows…until I find myself literally grounded, on my knees, in awe and humility. This year…wow.

‘Humility’ is not merely the art or the act of being humble…as that word too often implies weakness, smallness, or insignificance. To me, it has come to mean the embodiment of grace…the recognition that I am both tiny and infinite at once. It is being awash in a pool of gratitude so deep that it surpasses any words to describe it. In this sense, it is humility that cracks the heart wide open.

I have changed so much, even in the past six months, that it’s difficult to remember the barriers I had constructed around myself. I peer at their odd details, their remnants, and struggle to recall why they were there to begin with. It’s hard to remember the fear I had, the resistance to my own inner voice. I knew that Hypnotherapy training was the next step in my career as a psychotherapist (and coming to that knowledge was a journey in and of itself)…but for months, I felt stuck. I was learning the way, I was given the tools…but I simply couldn’t make myself DO it. Why wasn’t I ready? If I had to wager a guess…I didn’t believe I had the right to be powerful. I didn’t think I could really be a healer. And my own lifelong fight for authenticity (usually manifesting as perfectionism) made me doubt. I wasn’t sure I could facilitate my own healing, let alone the deep spiritual journey of another human being. Talk therapy is one thing; hypnotherapy, regression, energy medicine and soul work is another realm entirely.

I believe it now. I believe in myself. I believe in this work.

What brings me to tears are the memories of my sessions with clients, colleagues, and friends this year…the profound effect of witnessing another’s spiritual journey: the healing of old wounds, the remembering, the awakening. The relief and the comfort of meeting a wise adult, of feeling ushered and guided through life, of realizing I was never alone. The amazement of encountering a higher power, a force that shows up in a virtual kaleidoscope of forms. The immeasurable joy of learning to comfort your own inner child, to heal wounds you never believed could heal, to reconstruct the origin of false beliefs, and reclaim the self as whole and pure. And that is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg…

We are all, as flawed and embodied beings, under the illusion that we are separate, that we are bad, that we are alone. Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy® offers the opportunity to burst through this illusion and, yes, touch the stars. Burrow into the womb of the earth. Revisit our past and create new decisions about who we are and what we are meant to be in this life. Within the sacred space of Trance, anything and everything is possible.

For those who have already trusted me to be your guide, to accompany you on the journey to your highest self…my deepest thanks to you. To my teachers, my mentors, and my tribe, who continually challenge me to open, release, and BE…I cannot express in words how you have changed my life. To those of you who have yet to decide if this work may be meaningful or right for you…thank you for landing on this page. Thank you for your curiosity and your questions. I firmly believe this work is for everyone…that there is no one who can’t benefit from connecting deeply with their own soul. But ultimately, that is for you to decide for yourself.

Wishing you joy, healing, fulfillment, and peace in 2015. Oh, the places we’ll go…!

Putting the Thanks in Thanksgiving

As soon as Halloween was over this year (and in fact, a few days before), the stores filled with Christmas. Decorations, wrapping, gifts, lights, cards, trees, ornaments…you name it, and it was filling the aisles. Although I am accustomed to the hype and commercialism of our retail culture, it is starting to feel as though Thanksgiving is being overlooked. These days, it seems like Thanksgiving is treated as the starting line for the Christmas shopping race, and not much more than that.

This makes me rather sad…not just because I love to cook, or because Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. It makes me sad to think that our culture gives no more than a cursory nod to Thanksgiving, as we mow it down on the way to the checkout line, Black Friday purchases in hand.

All political commentary on the origins of Thanksgiving aside, it is supposed to be a time of gratitude and reflection. We gather with family and community, give thanks for the blessings in our lives (however we define that), and share with one another…food, company, warmth, hospitality, comfort. I have to wonder about the overshadowing of this holiday, and if it is deliberate on the part of big retailers and the corporate culture in general. After all, we Americans do not live in a culture that values gratitude and humility…we live in a culture of BUY MORE NOW. Perhaps it is no coincidence that Black Friday has gradually become Black Thursday Night, and then Black Thursday Evening…will Thanksgiving be crowded out completely?

As a therapist, I’ve read multiple articles and studies about the power of gratitude, and how it can impact our lives in measureable ways. Gratitude is incorporated into so many psychological theories and techniques that dissertations could be written on the topic. The biggest reason for this? It works. Employing an “attitude of gratitude” helps to alleviate depression, decrease anxiety, strengthen relationships, and improve overall mood and outlook.

Not sold on the idea? Try it! As Thanksgiving approaches, spend a little time each day being aware of the good things that are happening around you, no matter how small. Notice when someone lets you merge in traffic, when a barista doesn’t charge you for the extra whipped cream, or if someone holds the door open for you.  Notice the love that is present in your life, and take an extra second to cherish laughter, hugs, conversation, smiles. I have no doubt that this will help you give more sincere and joyful thanks as you sit down to your holiday dinner…because truly, there is always something to be thankful for.