Category Archives: Therapy

2014: Cracking the Heart Wide Open

Some of the most beautiful and profound experiences of my life occurred in 2014. As I sit in reflection, letting memories and moments float up organically, the impact of said experiences grows and grows…until I find myself literally grounded, on my knees, in awe and humility. This year…wow.

‘Humility’ is not merely the art or the act of being humble…as that word too often implies weakness, smallness, or insignificance. To me, it has come to mean the embodiment of grace…the recognition that I am both tiny and infinite at once. It is being awash in a pool of gratitude so deep that it surpasses any words to describe it. In this sense, it is humility that cracks the heart wide open.

I have changed so much, even in the past six months, that it’s difficult to remember the barriers I had constructed around myself. I peer at their odd details, their remnants, and struggle to recall why they were there to begin with. It’s hard to remember the fear I had, the resistance to my own inner voice. I knew that Hypnotherapy training was the next step in my career as a psychotherapist (and coming to that knowledge was a journey in and of itself)…but for months, I felt stuck. I was learning the way, I was given the tools…but I simply couldn’t make myself DO it. Why wasn’t I ready? If I had to wager a guess…I didn’t believe I had the right to be powerful. I didn’t think I could really be a healer. And my own lifelong fight for authenticity (usually manifesting as perfectionism) made me doubt. I wasn’t sure I could facilitate my own healing, let alone the deep spiritual journey of another human being. Talk therapy is one thing; hypnotherapy, regression, energy medicine and soul work is another realm entirely.

I believe it now. I believe in myself. I believe in this work.

What brings me to tears are the memories of my sessions with clients, colleagues, and friends this year…the profound effect of witnessing another’s spiritual journey: the healing of old wounds, the remembering, the awakening. The relief and the comfort of meeting a wise adult, of feeling ushered and guided through life, of realizing I was never alone. The amazement of encountering a higher power, a force that shows up in a virtual kaleidoscope of forms. The immeasurable joy of learning to comfort your own inner child, to heal wounds you never believed could heal, to reconstruct the origin of false beliefs, and reclaim the self as whole and pure. And that is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg…

We are all, as flawed and embodied beings, under the illusion that we are separate, that we are bad, that we are alone. Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy® offers the opportunity to burst through this illusion and, yes, touch the stars. Burrow into the womb of the earth. Revisit our past and create new decisions about who we are and what we are meant to be in this life. Within the sacred space of Trance, anything and everything is possible.

For those who have already trusted me to be your guide, to accompany you on the journey to your highest self…my deepest thanks to you. To my teachers, my mentors, and my tribe, who continually challenge me to open, release, and BE…I cannot express in words how you have changed my life. To those of you who have yet to decide if this work may be meaningful or right for you…thank you for landing on this page. Thank you for your curiosity and your questions. I firmly believe this work is for everyone…that there is no one who can’t benefit from connecting deeply with their own soul. But ultimately, that is for you to decide for yourself.

Wishing you joy, healing, fulfillment, and peace in 2015. Oh, the places we’ll go…!

8 Reasons to Get Some Therapy

(Because really…I think everybody needs it)

1. Nobody is normal. Seriously. Normal is a myth that is meant to make you feel bad about yourself. A therapist has actually studied human behavior, and can routinely remind you that ‘normal’ doesn’t exist. We are all operating as if the rulebook of whatever dominant culture(s) we belong to is sacrosanct, and that is simply not true. While certain trends and patterns in human behavior are indisputable, we burden ourselves tremendously by constantly comparing ourselves to others. Our level of happiness or contentment depends upon how readily we embrace our own uniqueness, flaws and all.

2. Everybody is crazy. At some point, everyone has done something crazy, or something offensive, regrettable, mean, stupid, reprehensible, illegal, or indicative of one or more mental disorders. Everyone has felt depressed or anxious, or unable to sleep or function or care, at various times in their life. That’s because as humans, we are supposed to be imperfect, flawed, and messy. We all have a freak-flag to fly in some form or another. Therapy is not just for ‘crazy’ people…it is for people who want to grow. And growth is essential for a meaningful life.

3. Pain is inevitable. It’s going to happen. And it is incredibly helpful to have someone to talk to about it. Therapy provides a framework for identifying and processing the terribly uncomfortable emotions that no one wants to feel…but that all of us must learn to manage. To consistently rely upon negative coping mechanisms (denial, avoidance, escape, addiction, to name a few) is to condemn yourself to suffering…or at minimum, being one of those people who wonders ‘Why is this always happening to me?’ As the common denominator, no one can answer that but you. You will not be able to avoid pain in your life…but hopefully, with professional support, you can avoid suffering.

4. Talking feels good. We are verbal, social, emotional creatures. We want to be seen and we want to be known. Many people go through life never knowing what it feels like to have someone really understand them. Hopefully, that is not you…but regardless how much love and support you have in your life, telling your story is cathartic. To say things out loud is powerful. Gaining insight into something from your past, realizing how you’ve grown or matured…these rewards are a product of storytelling. Therapy is an affirming reminder that ultimately, you are the author and creator of your own story.

5. Spare your friends. Another benefit of therapy is getting the objective viewpoint of someone who isn’t a stakeholder in your life. This is not to say that your friends don’t care, or your friends shouldn’t listen to you. By all means, your support system is essential. But your friends are not impartial witnesses to your feelings and your experiences…they care about what you do, and often, their ‘stuff’ gets mixed up in yours. Some may disagree, but I think even friendships have limits. Keeping some of your deepest, darkest details out of your friendships can actually make them better. Let your friends be your friends and your therapist be your therapist.

6. Bootstraps are for boots. And that’s it. We are not designed to pick ourselves up, figure out problems, untangle our dysfunctional family systems, or become successful and healthy on our own. We need help, and we need each other. It is perfectly okay that you cannot figure things out on your own, despite what you may have been taught. Asking for help is not shameful or weak…asking for help is brave. It is a step toward wholeness.

7. Go, Fight, Win! Your therapist (ideally) should challenge, question, push, and poke at you…but it should be in the context of a safe and supportive environment. When we are attempting to change an ingrained pattern or get through a rough patch in our lives, we need a cheerleader. We need to be inspired and encouraged. This is an integral part of the therapeutic process. When life is getting you down, your therapist is a person who holds a space for hope, and tells you it is going to be okay. And you know what? It will.

8. A Mechanic for your Life. Therapy is like a garage filled with tools for you to use in whatever way you need…is it a tune-up, or a complete engine overhaul? The versatility of therapy is something that makes it a universally helpful service. Many people find themselves overwhelmed by a current stressor, situation, or loss; they benefit from having short-term, intensive therapy for a few months or a year. Once they have adjusted, they are able to move on. For many others, having a lasting therapeutic relationship is what they truly want. As with other long-term relationships, having someone who has seen you through the good and the bad, watched you grow, and helped you through a range of life events is priceless. It is impossible to have that relationship without investing the time and commitment it needs. The same is true for your life. Therapy itself allows for multiple uses and experiences, but at its core, it is an investment you make in yourself.

Are you ready to see how therapy can help you? Contact me today!

Don’t live in Seattle? I recommend the following online therapist directories:

www.psychologytoday.com

www.goodtherapy.org

www.openpathcollective.org